I understand that people going through a divorce are stressed an pushed to their emotional limits at times. Often, words are spoken or actions taken without considering their true effect. I have heard the following in meetings with people ready to start a divorce, as they go through one, and even after the divorce is final:
- Even though we fight alot and do nothing together, I think we should stay together for the kid's benefit.
- My spouse calls me from the car, when the kids are in their car seats, and she swears at me and complains about money and my new spouse. And I know the kids hear every word.
- My spouse and I argue every time the kids are exchanged. It usually gets prettty ugly. They hear it all.
- My kids saw me throw all of my spouse's clothes on the front lawn.
- Even though the kids are in their rooms, they hear our arguments and the slamming of pots and pans and then slammed doors and crying.
- My former spouse drinks 3 or 4 glasses of wine every night in front of my teenagers.
- My former spouse has brought four new lovers into the house for sleepovers when my children are present.
Mediation is a form of alternate dispute resolution aimed at reducing conflict and working with parties to find answers and resolution in a quicker and less expensive manner.