A divorce can be a difficult time for any member of a Rhode Island family. However, it can be particularly difficult for children. For kids, often everything they've ever known is being changed. Child custody arrangements mean they are seeing their parents at different times and often in different houses. Their parents no longer live together and may be engaged in some heated legal disputes.
All of this change and tension can cause stress on a child and has the possibility of emotional strains that can last a lifetime if divorce issues are not properly handled.
However, experts do agree that there are a few things that children want out of a divorce. One, they want their parents to get along. When parents continue to fight after the divorce, children can suffer more hurt. Experts encourage parents to find ways to move past their own pain for the good of the children. A good first step is for each ex-spouse to treat the other as a stranger and just be cordial.
Two, kids want attention from their parents. Experts suggest that parents schedule special times to be with their children after divorce. During these times, parents should take special care to listen to their children's concerns.
Experts also say that kids want their parents to be happy following a divorce. When kids have happy parents, they feel more secure. Experts suggest that people go to therapy or look for other ways to find happiness and inner peace following a divorce.
A divorce creates a variety of legal and emotional issues. By keeping the best interests of the child in mind while going through the divorce process, everyone can move forward from the divorce in the best possible way.
Source: The Huffington Post, "3 Things Kids of Divorce Want Most," Honoree Corder, July 25, 2014