For many Rhode Island couples, the decision to divorce is not made lightly. Many events and life changes may have occurred that led to this major decision. Sometimes the decision to divorce is mutual, but sometimes it is one spouse or the other who initiates the divorce. Below are some tips that spouses in Rhode Island who are asking their partner for a divorce may find helpful.
First of all, when it comes to initiating this conversation if the couple has children, it can help for the couple to make sure they are alone so they can focus on the conversation and limit the uncertainty that the children may feel. Threatening to divorce during a heated argument can not only increase the animosity each spouse feels, but it could hurt any children who must witness such fights as well.
In addition, even though there may be many hurt feelings on both sides, spouses should try to be empathetic. If the spouses are in couple's therapy, this can be a time to have this conversation with the aid of a neutral outside party. While it may be tempting to play the blame game, doing so usually does not lead to productive conversations.
While some Rhode Island couples may be able to have a civil conversation about divorce, others may find that doing so is just not possible either due to animosity between the spouses or due to more serious situations such as cases of abuse. When this happens, enlisting the aid of an attorney can help. For example, an attorney may be able to draft a letter requesting a divorce. An attorney can also help a spouse learn more about how state law affects their divorce, for example how spousal support, child custody and child support works in their state.
Requesting a divorce may not be easy, but it is often in the long-term best interests for the spouses. If possible, having a civil conversation can lay the groundwork for the upcoming divorce proceedings. If there is too much conflict, hiring an attorney familiar with family law issues may help.
Source: The Huffington Post, "How To Ask Your Spouse For A Divorce, According To Experts," Brittany Wong, Nov. 25, 2015