Parents, married, divorced or never married, are challenged by how their children use or abuse social media. You may set down certain rules, but kids adopt rules of their own as well. Often these rules are set by their peers and you will never know them unless you discuss them with your child.
An article by Devorah Heitner, an educational consultant leads workshops on digital media at schools around the country. In the article in the New York Times (https://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/05/well/family/the-unspoken-rules-kids-create-for-instagram.html?em_pos=small&emc=edit_hh_20170308&nl=well&nl_art=5&nlid=5766156&ref=headline&te=1), she helps uncover some of those rules and the basis for them.
She includes in her article:
"In a study published last summer, researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, found that the pleasure centers in teenagers' brains respond to the reward of getting "likes" on Instagram exactly as they do to thoughts of sex or money. And just as parents try to teach children self-control around those enticements, they must also talk to them about not falling victim to behavior they will regret when craving those "likes."
Parents who are divorced or are separating need to have this conversation that Ms. Heitner suggests with their children.