Some people in Rhode Island probably set aside thoughts about divorce because they don't want to deal with the emotional stress that comes along with going through the legal process. Instead, they stay in a marriage that they're unhappy with, which can make things worse in the long run. So, how can our readers get past this mental hurdle? Are there any ways to prepare yourself for dealing with the potential emotional stress you might feel in post-divorce life?
Using an experienced divorce mediator to help you resolve issues produces less stress that you find in a litigated divorce. You resolve issues in the office of the private mediator instead of the hallways and court rooms in the Family Court building. In the confidential setting of the mediator's office, you can discuss your concerns and fears as well as reach results in less time that it would take in a litigated divorce. Be able to express your needs, concerns and wants, and solving issues quickly reduces stress.
According to a recent article, there are several tips that people might want to take note of as they head into life after a divorce. No one will tell you that divorce is easy; there aren't many uncontested divorces out there. So, after the conflict and stress of going through divorce proceedings involving real estate issues, property division, custody plans and spousal support, what are you to do with all that stress?
The first tip that the recent article suggests is that, no matter what situation arises, try to react with "class." Yes, many ex-spouses will go through a period of time in post-divorce life when they can only think about vengeance and the problems that led up to the divorce. But, after that, the article suggests that people try to set those feelings aside and carry on with dignity.
The next tip is to be mindful of yourself and your needs, starting with the basics: breathe. There's a reason why deep breathing is a part of so many exercise programs and meditation. It helps calm you down and keep you focused. Lastly, the article suggests to remember to find some humor in life. Even after addressing the complicated issues that can be involved in a divorce, there will be opportunities to enjoy life again.
Source: Huffington Post, "Defeating Divorce Despair: The Wisdom (and Humor!) of Healing," Sandra Vischer, May 4, 2017