Divorce mediation or divorce negotiations include difficult conversations. Often, there is no diplomatic way to have these conversations. An employer firing a friend or relative is a difficult conversation. Telling your in-laws that they are over-bearing is a difficult conversation. Delivering a difficult message is like lobbing a hand grenade; even if it is coated with honey and softly thrown, it will still do some damage. And failure to carry through that difficult conversation is like holing onto the hand grenade after the pin has been pulled. Just remember, difficult conversations are just normal experiences we have during our lifetimes.
After you obtain a Divorce, you need to examine and change your estate plan. If you had an estate plan before the divorce, you probably named your former spouse in your Last Will or Revocable Trust, as well as in your Health Care Power of Attorney. I can almost guarantee that you will want to change those decisions made during happier times. Further, if your spouse has a financial power of attorney, you need to revoke the same.