A rarely used option in child custody arrangements is "Nesting". When divorcing and co-parenting, the parties decide to each reside in a new residence and keep the children in the former marital home. Instead of the children going from Mom's home to Dad's home, the children remain in the home while the Mom and Dad go back and forth into the former home.
The prospect of the many different family law issues that Rhode Island residents can face in a divorce can seem daunting. Most divorce cases will involve property division issues, alimony and child support. However, for couples with children, the issue of child custody can be the most important issue of all.
Children in Rhode Island often benefit from having a loving and involved father in their lives. This is true even if the parents divorced when the child was young. According to a new study of divorced parents, when the mother had primary physical custody of the child, infants and toddlers benefited from spending some nights with their fathers. Not only did these overnight visits not interfere with the child's relationship with the mother, they actually improved the child's bonds with both parents. Further, mother's often enjoy having one or more nights off fromthe hard work of parenting.
When parents in Rhode Island decide to end their relationship, whether they were married or not, future cooperation may be the furthest thing from their minds, especially if the break-up was particularly acrimonious. However, they should understand that having children together means that they will still be a part of each other's lives, whether they like it or not. After all, there will be contact with regard to child custody and visitation schedules, but there is so much more. They'll both hopefully be attending their child's soccer games, dance recitals and graduations. Furthermore, even after the children are grown, there will be weddings and perhaps eventually grandchildren. Therefore, setting the groundwork for solid and civil communication and cooperation from the get-go is important.
When parents in Rhode Island are divorcing, one of their primary concerns is usually their child. Not only may they be concerned about their child's well-being during the divorce process, but they may also be concerned about child custody issues and how much time they will have with their child post-divorce.
So-called "Generation X" and "Millenium" couples in Rhode Island who have children may find that their lives are very different from those of their parents. For example, unlike previous generations, it is more likely that both partners have jobs outside the home. Moreover, both partners may be more involved in raising the children and keeping the home than in past generations.
The bond between a grandparent and his or her grandchild is a very special thing. Beyond the love between the two, grandparents in Rhode Island and elsewhere can pas a lot of valuable life lessons on to their grandchildren. Unfortunately, sometimes problematic circumstances occur, especially after a contentious divorce, in which a parent may attempt to stop his or her ex's parents from seeing their grandchildren. Perhaps this is an act of revenge or simply due to the animosity of the divorce. This cut-off can harm not just the grandparents but the child as well. Rhode Island law recognizes this and provides grandparents the right to visit their grandchild under very specific circumstances.
A recent post on this blog discussed "bird-nesting" after divorce -- a living arrangement in which the child remains in the family home, and the parents take turns living with the child, maintaining separate residences when it is not their turn to care for the child. This may happen in joint custody cases, where both parents spend a relatively equal time with their child in their care after a divorce. However, whether it is bird-nesting, other joint custody arrangements or sole custody with visitation, any child custody decisions in Rhode Island will be made based on the best interests of the child.
When parents in Rhode Island divorce, a parenting plan will be established. For example, if parents have joint custody, the child may move between each parent's home, perhaps living with one parent during some days of the week and the other parent on the other days of the week. Some parents may worry that such transitions are hard on their child. Therefore, they may opt for a different type of child custody arrangement: birdnesting.
Summer vacation will be here before we know it, much to the excitement of children across Rhode Island. While some children may be looking forward to longer days and no homework, those whose parents are divorced may be wondering where they will be living and when. Many parenting plans address this very issue, and if parents adhere to it and communicate to their child what to expect, summertime for children of divorce could be a positive experience.