Divorce mediation or divorce negotiations include difficult conversations. Often, there is no diplomatic way to have these conversations. An employer firing a friend or relative is a difficult conversation. Telling your in-laws that they are over-bearing is a difficult conversation. Delivering a difficult message is like lobbing a hand grenade; even if it is coated with honey and softly thrown, it will still do some damage. And failure to carry through that difficult conversation is like holing onto the hand grenade after the pin has been pulled. Just remember, difficult conversations are just normal experiences we have during our lifetimes.
After you obtain a Divorce, you need to examine and change your estate plan. If you had an estate plan before the divorce, you probably named your former spouse in your Last Will or Revocable Trust, as well as in your Health Care Power of Attorney. I can almost guarantee that you will want to change those decisions made during happier times. Further, if your spouse has a financial power of attorney, you need to revoke the same.
Almost everyone now understands that their postings on Facebook, Snap Chat, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest and Instagram (and in all Social Media Sites and platforms) may be unearthed in a divorce proceeding. Pictures and comments may haunt someone in a divorce proceeding. I had a male client, whose girlfriend posted a Facebook picture of her new large diamond ring on the afternoon that the divorce was heard. On the next day, my client's spouse called her attorney about the picture and I received a call from the wife's attorney asking what money my client had hidden in order to buy the ring. Luckily, he had the receipt that he had charged the entire amount of the ring. Clearly, this demonstrates the problems caused by a careless Facebook post.
Ben Franklin really did not write much on Divorce. But these quotes from hundreds of years ago do apply today to divorce.
Years ago, I used that phrase over and over about Divorce. Then it became stale because I used it too often. But, I need to get back to it.
Steve Jobs said:
Cognitive dissonance is the fancy term for the stress that occurs when a person holds two contradictory thoughts, beliefs, values, opinions or attitudes. This often occurs during the divorce process. If I believe that I am a good person and I do something truly bad, the discomfort I feel is the result of cognitive dissonance. People have an internal desire to feel that their actions, beliefs and ideas are consistent. Cognitive dissonance develops when a person takes two opposite beliefs or actions.
Some people in Rhode Island probably set aside thoughts about divorce because they don't want to deal with the emotional stress that comes along with going through the legal process. Instead, they stay in a marriage that they're unhappy with, which can make things worse in the long run. So, how can our readers get past this mental hurdle? Are there any ways to prepare yourself for dealing with the potential emotional stress you might feel in post-divorce life?
For years now, the common refrain regarding marriage is that half of them will end in divorce. But, according to a recent report, that isn't actually true anymore. The recent report noted a study which indicates that in the last 35 years, the rate of divorces in America has actually decreased by 25 percent. If that is the case, then the new reality about divorce is that the majority of marriages actually make it.
The decision to file for divorce is huge. It doesn't matter if the marriage has lasted months or years, the end of a marriage is a big deal for most people. One of the main reasons for why divorce is such a big issue is because of the financial impact of a divorce on a Rhode Island resident's life.